Life is fast—sometimes plain crazy. So it’s not unusual when we find ourselves needing to hit the pause button. When I do, it gives me “balance.”
Dictionary.com says balance is mental steadiness or emotional stability. It is the habit of calm behavior and judgment. Who’s not for that?
I have found that the key to life balance begins by getting crystal clear on your priorities. Your list may look like this—it’s the order I find creates the most balance for me:
- Work/Church (boundaries between these merge for me)
- Everything else
If you are a Christian, comes first. Jesus said, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you” (Matthew 6:33). God is the ultimate priority. Until He is first, everything else will seem out of kilter.
I also pray daily in the morning at home and on my way to work. In addition, I pray before meals, and throughout the day, and right before I go to bed. Most often, it’s just an ongoing conversation—more casual than formal. One of the growing disciplines for me has been creating space for silence. These 1 to 2 hour blocks of reflection/rest/reading have become reservoirs of renewal.
This may surprise you but I come next. I don’t think this is because I am selfish or egocentric—though I certainly am. I have learned through the years that I can’t take care of others unless I take care of me. If you fly, you have heard the flight attendant say, “In case of an emergency … put the oxygen mask on yourself first before attempting to help others.”
- I’m a happier and more loving husband to Cindy.
- I’m more effective and fulfilled as a pastor.
- And the rest of it often finds its proper place.
What do you do to maintain balance in your life? What works for you when life gets crazy?